Which Way Should I Go?
The other day I happened to be sitting with a dear friend and guide of mine and was sharing with him the ‘state of affairs’ ( as it were ) in my life. We discussed where I’d come from, where I was and where might I go. These matters are, of course, privileges that many are not afforded; so before I go on I want to stress how grateful I am to be in the position I’m in. Our conversation turned to ‘Which Way Should I Go’ from here? Is one direction better than the other? Is there a benefit in time with one route than the other? Is there a direction that provides more meaning than the other? etc. The conversation carried on for a while when he said ” hang on let me get something” and reached for a tablet and then started paraphrasing some ideas he’d been reading.
He said, ‘its says here that one cannot be ‘attached’ to an idea of something, be that anything and that everything changes weather you want it to or not’ He continued, “what I get out of this is that one should always keep growing, one should keep ever expanding but not just for the sake of new things or new ideas so if you are happy where you are you have no need to go anywhere so long as it provides you with personal growth and satisfaction; if not, well that is another matter….want to know who said it ?” He asked… sure I said… “YOU DID” he said and proceeded to show me the download of my book. Well I’ll be darned I thought. He reminded me that the answers were inside me and I wanted to share some of those practical learning with you in this addition of my newsletter.
1) change for the sake of change and without deeper understanding is truly fruitless. That is, some people can’t see the difference between a flighty dream and something real opf value. Sometimes our minds play tricks on us and those dreams seem to be real and reality seems the dream. Think about it…how many people have you seen that change jobs, houses, cars, relationships etc, just because they ‘just need a change’. I wonder, did they look at their situation clearly or did the disposable society we live in get to them ?
2) Doing the same thing over and over again (without meaningful growth) will get you the same experience and you won’t actually grow as a person. This is the exact opposite of the point above. No matter what happens, I’m a big fan of doing things at least twice (sometimes more)…perhaps the second time you do the thing, it may bring new learning or experience. If the results land up the same, I can bet you doing it another multiple ( if no meaningful change has occurred) will result in the same outcome.
3) As I was reminded, many times, the answer is inside of you; all you need do is think about it deeply. Give yourself that time to think on a topic, don’t rush, the answer is within you and trust yourself
Finally, if you want to change the direction you’re going and path you are on, have a conversation (or address the situation) with yourself or the person/organisation with whom the change needs to occur without having judgement or expectation. You may surprise yourself.
What was it that Ray Kroc said ” When you’re green you’re growing; when you’re ripe, you rot”