What do I do when I grow up?
How long ago was it that you actually made a choice to be doing what you are currently doing? Are you still happy with that choice? Does that choice ring true to the person you are or are you in a bit of a different place? A place where you find yourself unfulfilled, unhappy and unmotivated?
If the second statement rings true to you, I’d say you are not alone. Don’t get me wrong there are plenty of people that also love what they do, my guess would be they have found their ‘calling’ or are in the early years of their career where growth and joy are found. But, what if you have that hurdle, that feeling in the pit of your stomach that says ‘ I just don’t belong here?
That is what I like to call an intersection and that is where fear strikes so many of us.
It is at that intersection that we start having all thoughts that go something like this:
What happens if I leave my current ‘status quo’?
I’ve worked so hard to get here, even if I am uncomfortable its ok.
If I leave now, there is no guarantee that I will be successful in the future.
Of course the list goes on and on, fear after fear, thought after thought; and you know what that leads to? It leads to a whole lot of doing nothing… we wind up in a situation where we just watch the days, weeks and months pass and in general it makes our fears grow. Finally we wind up looking back on life and wondering where all those years went.
I have a very dear friend whose father was a premier athlete. He loved the sport he did, only problem was it may not have paid so well back in the day. So he did the responsible thing, he went to school became a doctor had some kids (one of whom is my friend) and bought a house in the suburbs. I remember very distinctly the time I asked him about his profession and if he liked it; his exact words were “well I can’t say that I like it, but it’s what supported my family all these years so I tolerate it”. He told me that all his friends and family encouraged him to pursue the medical side of things and leave the world of sport which he loved so much…I suppose 50 years ago, that was what we called ‘ social media’ today it has a meaning and pace unmatched.
When I find myself getting caught up in my own thoughts I reflect on what Oscar Wilde said “Life is not complex. We are complex. Life is simple, and the simple thing is the right thing.